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The Toxicity of Unsolicited Advice

I’ve found myself in relationships throughout my life that are openly hostile to my emotional needs.  Where it becomes the imperative truth that if I talk about myself, my feelings or problems, it is seen as an invitation for attack, … Continue reading

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Confronting The Double Standards In Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships

One early evening when I was 18 years old, I was trying to take a shower.  But my mother kept knocking on the bathroom door, calling out my name and saying something in a muffled voice. There were two bathrooms … Continue reading

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The Intrusive Rages of My Abusive Older Sister

When I was thirteen, my twenty one year old sister was sitting on my bed and casually talking with me as I put away my clean laundry.  But when I placed my boxer shorts into a drawer and closed it, … Continue reading

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Pets In An Abusive Family System: Facing Down My Parents Legacy

When I was 19, my mother continuously fed my brother’s dog Una very unhealthy table scraps despite his asking her not to.  Una would sometimes throw up afterwards, but she wouldn’t really apologize, just be sorry that she was caught … Continue reading

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The Roller-coaster And The Injection: On Patterns Of An Abusive Family

Recently I was waiting for my companion outside the local clinic when a woman walked out with her young daughter who had just been vaccinated.  The mother was  laughing very loudly and saying in a mocking tone “Can we do … Continue reading

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The End of “It’s Ok”

It’s been one year since I started this blog; and one year since I began to uncover my repressed memories.  I’ve made a lot of progress in that time and lately I’m going through a period of great change. Last … Continue reading

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Emotional Honesty Is Great (on the futility of labeling emotions)

When I was in fourth grade, the teachers and other students would try to get me to smile, by telling a joke, tickling, or calling attention to me. No one asked why this little boy might be unhappy, no one … Continue reading

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