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The Lies of An Emotional Abuser Cancel Each Other Out

I used to think that my mother said she loved me but it was a lie.  And the truth was what she told me via decades of emotional abuse.  But I see now that when she expressed her hatred and … Continue reading

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How Bodywork Retraumatized Me

It’s been over a year and a half since I stopped working with an acupuncturist, but it was only recently that I’ve been able to understand how much harm his treatments actually caused me due to his lack of professional … Continue reading

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The Toxicity of Unsolicited Advice

I’ve found myself in relationships throughout my life that are openly hostile to my emotional needs.  Where it becomes the imperative truth that if I talk about myself, my feelings or problems, it is seen as an invitation for attack, … Continue reading

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Defining Family As A Survivor: Through Grief and Contrast

It’s been three and a half months since my partner of seven years passed away. I’ve experienced many cold, dark, lonely days since then. The holidays this year were not a time to celebrate, but to grieve, and somehow survive … Continue reading

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Learning To Value My Creativity After Emotional Abuse

A photo I took shortly after escaping my abusive family home Being a visually oriented person, photography has long been a great interest of mine,  though it wasn’t always accessible to me. I remember the first significant time I used … Continue reading

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Grieving and Healing in A Time of Crisis

As summer wound down this year I found myself going through an extremely volatile and unstable period, constantly triggered and impulsive, unable to calm myself for longer then a few hours or really understand why it was happening. This brought … Continue reading

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The Pretense of “Both Sides” When You’re The One Being Abused

When I was 9 years old I broke down crying and confessed to my sister how much my older brother had been abusing me on a daily basis since she went away, she said to me “C’mon Caden, I’ve seen … Continue reading

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