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Learning To Value My Creativity After Emotional Abuse

A photo I took shortly after escaping my abusive family home Being a visually oriented person, photography has long been a great interest of mine,  though it wasn’t always accessible to me. I remember the first significant time I used … Continue reading

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The Pretense of “Both Sides” When You’re The One Being Abused

When I was 9 years old I broke down crying and confessed to my sister how much my older brother had been abusing me on a daily basis since she went away, she said to me “C’mon Caden, I’ve seen … Continue reading

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Abusive Teachers and The Parents Who Enable Them; My 4th Grade Christmas Party

When I was eight years old my mother announced that she felt inspired to make special gifts for my brother and I to give to our teachers on the last day of school before Christmas.  I intentionally left mine at … Continue reading

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Pets In An Abusive Family System: Facing Down My Parents Legacy

When I was 19, my mother continuously fed my brother’s dog Una very unhealthy table scraps despite his asking her not to.  Una would sometimes throw up afterwards, but she wouldn’t really apologize, just be sorry that she was caught … Continue reading

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Breaking The Bonds of Shame

One night at dinner when I was five my mother giddily recounted to the whole family how I had hurt myself falling out of bed the night before and cried out, “he thought I would feel sorry for him!” she … Continue reading

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My Mother Claimed She Wasn’t A “Mean Drunk”

My parents confronted me shortly before I moved out; the encounter was setup to ‘put me back into my place’ and deny that I had been hurt by anyone anywhere as a child.  Because I had told her weeks earlier … Continue reading

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Measuring My Self Worth, Then and Now.

Recent holidays meant treating myself to (and receiving from my partner) new clothing over the internet from my favorite store.  When my order arrived, everything fit well except for one pair of pants that despite being “my size” were slightly … Continue reading

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