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How Bodywork Retraumatized Me

It’s been over a year and a half since I stopped working with an acupuncturist, but it was only recently that I’ve been able to understand how much harm his treatments actually caused me due to his lack of professional … Continue reading

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Confronting The Double Standards In Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships

One early evening when I was 18 years old, I was trying to take a shower.  But my mother kept knocking on the bathroom door, calling out my name and saying something in a muffled voice. There were two bathrooms … Continue reading

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Abusive Teachers and The Parents Who Enable Them; My 4th Grade Christmas Party

When I was eight years old my mother announced that she felt inspired to make special gifts for my brother and I to give to our teachers on the last day of school before Christmas.  I intentionally left mine at … Continue reading

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Mother-Son Incest and The Myth of “Overprotective”

I was floored when I recently watched the French film Mon fils a moi (My Son, 2006.)   The depiction of an intrusive, controlling, abusive mother who lashes out at her 12 year old son, Julien as he enters puberty and … Continue reading

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Pets In An Abusive Family System: Facing Down My Parents Legacy

When I was 19, my mother continuously fed my brother’s dog Una very unhealthy table scraps despite his asking her not to.  Una would sometimes throw up afterwards, but she wouldn’t really apologize, just be sorry that she was caught … Continue reading

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The Intertwining of Worth And Shame In Abusive Parenting

One morning my mother’s car was in the shop, and so she wasn’t able to pick up a coworker to carpool for once, it had to be the other way around.  I had much bigger things on my mind and … Continue reading

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The Emotional Violence of Silent Rejections

When I decided to cut my hair over Christmas break before my 15th birthday, I wasn’t expecting a reaction.  I always used the longest setting to trim the back and sides of my head, but that day I forgot to … Continue reading

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